On Her Terms with Nikki Elledge Brown

🌋 moving thru resistance (*the floor is lava* theory) [OHT 084]

You want to WANT to do it, but you don’t yet. Or you’d be doing it.


On some level, you believe there’s more benefits to NOT doing it. Or you’d be doing it. Have you ever considered the drawbacks to not doing it?


It’s like standing on a hot sidewalk barefoot. Standing still and talking about it… doesn’t help! The longer you stand there, the more damage you’re doing.


Helpful Q to actually answer:


What are you missing out on by thinking about it, and not doing it? By letting your fear dictate your actions and not stretching yourself to be brave?


Ex. Thinking about it and beating yourself up over not doing it is likely more painful than doing the thing.


TEST IT and prove me wrong, will you? (Better yet, prove Mom Brain / your wisest self RIGHT – show yourself that taking this action is indeed worth the discomfort and effort, and once you’re going, actually feels pretty dang good.)


Give yourself a chance to try something new and TRUST yourself to take care of yourself on the other side. Twinkle toes over to the grass or some shade, at least.


This is where it is actually helpful to bake in actions we can take daily - because the automation is useful. We can relax into routines vs. switching things up every day.


***Inspired by this journal entry from 2023:


So – what are you waiting for?


What are you afraid of?


Have you considered the pain of resisting the thing is often more intense than DOING the thing? When has that been true?


Journaling is cool and all, but have you tried actually doing the thing? Taking the step? Moving your feet? It’s like resistance is standing on a hot sidewalk barefoot. Thinking and talking about it isn’t going to help. Moving your feet will.


Further [yes I said that; who talks to themselves like this?! 💀] – the longer you stand there, the more pain you’ll experience, both now AND later. Bc that burn is changing your chemistry. It’s gonna require extra attention for healing vs just moving right along, knowing and acknowledging the floor is lava and keeping it moving to the next shady spot.


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Hi! đź‘‹ I'm Nikki.


...Elledge Brown.


Creator of the On Her Terms® universe.


Pro word nerd and mom of three.

I'm a creative advisor, coach, and strategist for entrepreneurial women who love their work, their families, and their alone time.


I'm also a military spouse and former park ranger and college professor with a penchant for almost excessive verbal processing. (You've prob picked up on that by now.)


After over a decade in business and momming, moving from my fave Hawaiian island to my fave Texas town, reckoning with and recovering from my own brand of #onherterms burnout, I've been deep in introspection + experimentation over here:


Got it. Not a dress rehearsal. What do I really want my life to look like? What do I want it to feel like? In each area of life, what are my terms for this season? When I get really honest and ditch the should dos and the have tos…what's left? What’s true? NOW WHAT?


This podcast is a space to track that journey, to share my field notes, to anchor in the stories and lessons my clients and I are learning along the way.


Join me here to refresh your OWN definitions of what matters most to you. Motherhood, ambition, fulfillment, creativity, relationships, inspiration, REST, success, community, and about a squillion other words and concepts that deserve thoughtful consideration.


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